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Posted by: Glen Feb 4 2008, 04:35 PM

The Christian doctrine concerning marriage has never been easy to obey, but now it's especially difficult to remain married when divorce is so common. While true doctrine allows for divorce under grave circumstances, many are calling it quits because, "we were never compatible," or, "we were living next to each other, but not together." When we use such use such excuses we often end up repeating our problems in the next marriage(s). In this article...
http://www.web-church.com/articles-christian/christian-divorce-doctrine.htm

Posted by: dww1048 Jun 21 2009, 08:38 AM

I have been having trouble with my divorce. I was never the one to rush into thing I waited till I was 34 to get married me and my wife met at work started seeing each other. We we together for 5 year's when I finally proposed to her we got married and witihin 2 month's she turned to drug's I knew they were a problem in her past but she was doing good we seperated for a few month's I forgave her and went back to her I tried to get her to seek help but she wouldn't. I was with her for a year and she started drinking heavily and one night snapped and was yelling at me and threatened my life so once again I ran. Sense leaving her this second time I have found God and asked him into my life. I have been trying to find a job but haven't been able to find one so I am having trouble getting my divorce if it wasn't for my family I would be out on the street's homeless I thank God everyday for my family. I hope that God can forgive me for wanting to divorce me wife I think my reason is a good one. My whole life I watched my mother marry various men and my sibling's go through relationship after relationship marriage after marriage and I never wanted this for myself this is the reason I waited so long to get married I wanted to find that one special someone to be my other half and grow old with I never thought I would be going through a divorce but now realize there are reason's for divorce. While married I lived my life for my wife she refused to work so I worked very hard to keep us going if she needed something done all she had to do was ask and and I would do it and for all my hard work this is where we are I have forgiven her for what happened but I can't forget it hard as I try. Without trust a realationship cant thrive she was very jealous over me and in the end this is what tore us apart I always told her if you trust me you don't have to worry about anyone else but she said she couldn't trust my co-worker's that were female. Please tell me if God will forgive me for this divorce I have been having trouble figuring out if my reason is just I believe it is.

Posted by: Vinchenzo Jul 22 2009, 02:13 PM

"in sickness and in health".you must make every effort to get your wife help, AA, rehab whatever.
divorce is much to common in our society.it is a fate worse than death and the pain will linger for a long long time.It would be wise for you to seek counsel also at this difficult time.
Good luck...God Bless

Posted by: 1das Jul 30 2009, 09:27 AM


There are so many things to say about marriage and divorce, for so many, since dreams and lives are united, and then now we have a world of horror to face in the way we have ignored basic rules which have caused us to hurt one another. Now we all suffer the consequences. And we is the word that can operate in this world in unity, once I am convinced with the assurance of my belief in Christ without doubt.

When we look to divorce I've mostly seen others concerned for themselves, it appears that by that time, mostly we do consider just ourselves. Yes we hurt, divorce hurts. It effects someones life who you've been close to, someone that usually you share young lives with, your children.

And children, aren't suffering just in their youth, but consider, doesn't it shatter dreams? How well our children now, be effectively capable of seeing through the sure thing of divorce we've left them in this world, in their own families history, in order to see a dream without doubts? And even if we were so capable, or lucky, or blessed, in whatever terms you want to apply it, to have survived marriage till "death do us part", we then, as I feel have still failed our children in leadership. We still have set the standard as a culture, and isn't it a pitifully low standard at that?

So yes, leadership is a tough course, and as we are at least somewhat aware of, there are very few who have chosen the sacrifices it takes for true leadership. We are so thankful for our leader, Jesus Christ. Before sacrifices are considered concerning leadership in marriage and setting the standard, have we considered the mind of Christ and His reasoning as to why he may have proposed such laws and directions concerning divorce? Then we might be able to consider the cost, first.

Does good leadership await those who are deciding where they stand to take a stand? No, I think good leadership always goes out ahead, this is what I've seen. Since the majority rarely have considered, and await someone to go ahead, and then quite often well fall to the easiest course. So the environment which lends to such an undesirable atmosphere for a true leader, is the surrounding which makes a true leader so rare. Don't you see it this way?

So how does this lend effects towards the home? And isn't this the reason our leaders, where ever they lead us are so adamant about establishing the rule, the law and the statute? Since without law, even though we may have found our freedom in the Grace of Christ, and this grace does meet the law and is higher than the law... without the law, there well always be those, unfortunately the majority, which slide to their least admirable tendencies.

And when that happens with our marriage and our homes, then some one very close to us gets hurt. Dreams become shattered, and lives are changed forever. Without the other partner in raising the children in the bonds of Gods Love, these children become permanently changed. They well never be the same children they would have been with both loving parents close in the bonds of marriage. So you may consider and ask yourselves this, by braking the bonds of marriage, have you indeed signed the death sentence to the children you have known loved and dreamed great dreams for. They well never be the same.

Laws are meant to protect us, and to keep the majority heading in the right direction. And this since most of us well look toward others to find out which way to go, rather than considering the consequences to others and the nation we live in. Now every other type of trouble we can imagine pops up in rampant proportions do so much from the contributions of disturbed and dysfunctional home environments. It takes leaders to stand up and move towards a change. And to move a world towards repentance.

Strength is admirable, forgiveness divine. And when I see forgiveness, and compassion, I am attracted to it. So I would conclude, that as you put on the righteousness of Christ Jesus, you well have begun a ministry capable of leading others to reconciliation.

As we see destruction around the corner, and we're looking for strength... we know Christ is coming... and yet as the people are willing to repent, God the Father has held back His wrath, He has repented in times past, and forgiven His people. As nations of people, so much of the air in our balloon has been let out, with little hope of accomplishment around the area's of Marriage and Divorce. And this lending towards every other type of problem we have in the digression of human character.

I must conclude a horrible truth to take in, but a must. Return to what works. Return to the laws and the structures which caused our people to learn the reasons behind what is right and wrong surrounding Marriage. Without restructuring and hedging up the family unit as it once was, haven't we pronounced a death sentence upon our children, and upon our future? And it takes strong leaders who have thought it through to know and go forward with confidence and speak up. Because you know what the reply well be, don't you? But yet for those that believe they speak.

Even with all the rules that say when to speak and where to speak or for how long you should speak, "...Both in season and out of season, be ready to speak the word of truth...

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