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bigpoppy
post Aug 1 2009, 05:40 AM
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I've been struggling with sex addiction for years. Is there any other christians out there struggling with sex addiction or porn addiction. If so I'd like to start this new topic.
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post Nov 6 2009, 08:25 PM
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HI

I gladly like to get this subject going,

I have been saved for about 16 years now.
and not all of the has been in church, as i have stopped going, for along time now i have struggled with porn and want to change from doing the things i do , FINALLY,
i hope to talk to u soon a please any 1 reading this please join ,don't just move on pass this let's all start winning , if your not a christian it don't matter we are all struggling the the same addition.
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post Nov 30 2009, 08:18 PM
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You're not alone. I've been addicted to porn for about 3 years. When I first started, I only did it once in a while, but I quickly started spending 3-4 hours a day online looking at that this toxic crap. For a while I was able to stop. I don't even remember why I stopped, but one day, I started again. And why I started again is also a mystery to me. The thing is, is that I don't understand how I can be doing this. I was raised in a Christian home. I am a Christian (not just the Sunday School Christian, who goes on sundays and fakes it and then the rest of the week the time can be spent any way I want but I was on fire for Christ). I feel if I were to tell any one, they would never speak to me again. I'm terrified of telling my best friend (who I have told everything to) because I can't even think what life would be like without her.
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post Dec 5 2009, 08:44 PM
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QUOTE (SINNERbutstillLOVED @ Nov 30 2009, 11:18 PM) *
You're not alone. I've been addicted to porn for about 3 years. When I first started, I only did it once in a while, but I quickly started spending 3-4 hours a day online looking at that this toxic crap. For a while I was able to stop. I don't even remember why I stopped, but one day, I started again. And why I started again is also a mystery to me. The thing is, is that I don't understand how I can be doing this. I was raised in a Christian home. I am a Christian (not just the Sunday School Christian, who goes on sundays and fakes it and then the rest of the week the time can be spent any way I want but I was on fire for Christ). I feel if I were to tell any one, they would never speak to me again. I'm terrified of telling my best friend (who I have told everything to) because I can't even think what life would be like without her.


Brothers In Christ,

I recently relapsed into by BESETTING SIN for one day after 9 months of Celibacy . The old guilt ,condemnation and shame returned . What caused me to fall was not controlling my mind and dwelling on sexual thoughts and attractions . I was cherishing this sexual attraction to another person in my heart . In a moment of weakness I gave into the lust of the flesh so to speak . I decided to do something about my Sin and Weakness. I repented and confessed this sin to the LORD again it seems like the millionth time ! But I am resolved in the Grace of God ultimately to get victory. I want to get married to the right Christian Gal someday . I want to be free of this sin when the LORD puts her in my life. I want her to meet my sexual needs and desires. I do not want to be selfish anymore . I thank and praise the LORD for directing me to this Christ Centered ministry for help,advice and encouragement in the LORD. I COVET PRAYER on the Journey once again to Freedom That Jesus Christ has purchased for Us . Peace to all .


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post Jan 13 2010, 08:52 AM
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Dear Brothers,
As we have read, it is the grace of God which gives us the power to say no to unrighteousness. Walking in the Spirit must become real to us - and it is this walk with Him where He produces a miraculous influence in us. His influence is very real and a true gift because we are not able to build or change ourselves. It is by His loving grace - by His Spirit that He grows us up into His love and gifts. I speak from experience. There is so much to share with you. Above all, YOU ARE LOVED.

Our responsibility is to walk with Him - seeking to know Him. His responsibility is to cause all change/growth/transformation/fruit. The more we look at Him and into Him, the more of Him He shows us. He is so wonderful - and we begin to see Him and feel Him and know Him. It becomes very personal. He is so beautiful it is hard to stay away from Him for very long. He loves us so intensely and deeply that we cry with relief and comfort and we never want to leave Him ever again.

As we grow in grace and in the knowledge of the height, and breadth and depth of His love, we are filled - more and more. The time comes (and it will come) when His love touches us so deeply that we just lose the taste for sin. It becomes impossible to enjoy porn when gazing into the loving eyes of Jesus.

Eventually (and it does seem to take some time to grow), as we see and feel His love for us and realize how real He is - we begin to see ourselves as His beloved, precious ones. We see the way He looks at us and we start to see ourselves as He sees us. He sees us as beloved ones whom He adores to the uttermost - whom He even likes and enjoys - no matter what. He simply will never stop loving us because its the way He is.

And then He shows us the next thing and that is how much He loves all those women we have been looking at and fantasizing about. He adores them. He kisses and hugs them all the time. He created them and adores them with His whole heart. And now we can love them with that same love with which we were loved. Now, these women become real people with real lives and hearts and problems. Now we get to care about them more than we care about ourselves. And we begin to pray for them.

It is impossible to lust after a woman and pray for her at the same time. It is so much more wonderful seeing her as Jesus sees her and caring about her well being as Jesus does. Begin praying for these women. Somebody needs to be praying for them. Let it be us. And watch how Jesus transforms us from selfish lusters into selfless care-ers. Let us walk in the Spirit of Jesus' love and honor and dignity, ascribing to women the same love, honor and dignity that Jesus has for them - and we will not fulfill the lusts of our flesh.

Eventually, the war in our members is easily won every day. Jesus wins it for me every time I come to Him for Him. When I spend time looking into and knowing Him (which He shows us more and more of), I am changed - comforted - loved - and made into His vessel of light. He does it. I can't. He wins the battles every day. My job is singular - spend time getting to know Him. He does all the work by revealing Himself and His heart and His thoughts. He completes the work He began.

May we all ABIDE with Him and let Him be Himself. He will do it - whatever the "it" is that needs doing. And if my eye is single upon Him, He will fill my whole body with His light/love/beauty/goodness/truth which sets me free.

I have been where you are. I could go there at any time. Temptations hit me too. I RACE for Jesus and I don't leave. He really does do the work. He shows me Himself and I am changed. I can't explain HOW He does it. Somehow, by seeing and knowing Him, He gifts some of Himself into me - or gifts some revelation or experience of Himself into me - and He rubs off on me. Words are hard to find to explain it. All I know is, I can choose to walk in my flesh and lose the battles or spent time with Him. It's a no-brainer.

I have been nothing but a total failure. Thank God I can admit it. Thank God He is not a failure. And we have Him. Now let's choose to walk with Him, hearts and minds fixed on Him, growing in the knowledge and experience of Him - and see how well He does the work that only He can do.

We are ADORED - all of us. Blows me away.

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post Jan 13 2010, 10:06 AM
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Gosh I hope I didn't come off sounding like some holier-than-thou jerk with some overly simplistic solution. Please forgive me if I sounded like that.

I struggled with sexual addiction for YEARS (whole life) - as well as drug addiction (18 years) anger addiction, fear addiction, depression, financial failure and all around total self loathing with suicidal fantasies. I hit bottom so many times in so many ways - it's been hell - literally. I had two choices - end it all or dig for answers like the mad man I was. I GOT HELP - lots of it.

I knew I couldn't make any more excuses and I knew I obviously didn't know how to beat these things or I'd have beaten them by now. I became desperate enough to drop my ego defenses and get help.

The drugs had to go first. But at the root of drug addiction was insecurity, fear, loneliness, anger and frustration that people were idiots. (Had a severe problem with arrogance. Just way too smart. Thought I knew a lot.)

I was a Christian the whole time too. This really confused me. How could I be a sincere Christian and do these things and not be able to stop?

Desperation made me seek. I immersed myself in teachings, counseling, meetings, reading, studying, thinking, praying and crying out. I can't say it didn't help. It did - but it was so slow and hard and littered with relapses of all kinds. What I still failed to see was that there was no way I was going to be able to fix myself - even with God's help. After MANY years of frustration it became clearer and clearer that God had better be the one to fix me because I wasn't doing so hot at it.

What became clear to me, while my head was on my pillow, was I didn't trust God. I wasn't sure He loved ME. If He did, I couldn't feel it. I wasn't sure He would fix me. I had no idea how to get Him to fix me. Asking Him to fix me wasn't working. I was very confused about these things.

The first place He took me was into a study of the real gospel. I didn't even know that I didn't know the gospel. I thought I did. I went to a good bible teaching church. By the grace of God, I stumbled onto a radio program where I heard the real gospel - the whole gospel and my spirit lept. I could tell I was on to something very powerful and good. It took time for my mental legalistic habits to be replaced with truth.

Along the way, Jesus began showing me that He is real - and then showing me that His love is real too.

This began to shift my focus on to Him directly. The gospel is truly wonderful, as is the Bible, but Jesus is who they all point to. I discovered that knowing HIM personally, was the entire point of it all. Without Him, all I had was a book and a head full of knowledge. I still read the book(s) and have a head still filling with knowledge - but knowing Jesus has been so much more powerful than any other knowledge I have ever had.

It is becoming clearer every day that all my problems stem from unbelief in Him. And not believing in Him stems from not knowing Him very well. And not knowing Him stems from the fact that He hasn't revealed Himself to me in some way yet. And the reason He doesn't reveal Himself to me is pride and wishing He was a genie in a bottle and would just do what I want Him to do. He doesn't like that game at all and He won't play it. I have learned to stop telling/asking Him for His gifts. I have learned that He wants me coming to Him for HIM - the giver - and to leave it up to Him to decide what gifts to give. I have also learned that 99% of the time, the gift He wants to give me is - Himself.

I am nothing but a loved man. He is everything I need. I love getting to know Him. I hope to be knowing Him all day long. (Not there yet. The old man dies hard.)

Hope this helps
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post Sep 14 2012, 06:19 AM
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Hi there,

Every addiction comes from an unloving spirit that has either entered through something that's happened in your life like feeling unloved by your parents, self issues, abuse etc and/or it can be a generational curse of perversion, uncleanness, lust, fantasy, unloving.

I had a pornography addiction for 6 years and after repenting of my sin and my forefathers sins which the bible tells us to do it left me and was completely free with not even the thought of looking remained. Before I would be constantly repenting for my sin but it was always pulling me back into it until God showed me that there's more involved then just repenting of the sin.

Feel free to message me
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