hi everyone. awhile ago i was searching for some topics that could give answers to my questions just like why people have insecurities and how can we control our insecurities when i discovered this site. i am 30 yr old a girl, im in a long relationship right now. i love my partner so much infact we are planning to get married next year. i know that he loves me too. he is my first and last boyfriend, when we are together we are also happy we enjoy each others company. what i couldnt understand is that everytime i see him happy with his family and relatives i got this bad feeling inside. i do not know why i wasnt like this before and i hate this feeling everytime. his family and i are ok there are just things happened in the past that hurts me so bad and everytime i think of it i feel the hatred deep inside me. how could i get rid of this feeling? i wish one day when wake up this bitterness im feeling is gone. pls help me i cannot go on living like this. and i dont want my fiance and i will fight because of my insecurities.help me.
ill be waiting for your advices,
shakeypink
ShakeyPink -
Uh…I cannot know what causes this feeling in you - other than it seems as if you are jealous of the attention he gives to his family and he gets from his family.
You are not in competition with his family but you are part of his family. It may be that you instinctively know that some member or members of his family are wolves in sheep’s clothing - perhaps one or more do not like you as much as they pretend. OR…it is merely something you are creating in your imagination because you are a little jealous - perhaps your own family is not as close and loving toward you as his family is toward him (for example).
I pray that the Lord opens your spiritual eyes to what it is that is causing this uncertainty in you and give you the wisdom and strength to resolve it, In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Shalom.
I know what you feel, i am actually very familiar with the feeling....., been there... maybe if i tell you why i flet that way it might help. My selfesteem was very low although i never showed this i felt that someone finally loved me and it was very scary that he could love someone else, I wanted to be the only one he loved i wanted all the attention all the love and i was unwilling to share this, as if Family or friends were mistresses!!! It took a while but i worked on myself .. not on him..
I learned to love myself enough to know that i was worthy of being loved and that his love for me was quite different than the love he had for his family members or friends.... I prayed alot and asked God to teach me how to love myself and i somehow started it to and the insecuritites slowly disappeared..... Start looking inside yourself and loving yourself first , slowly everything will seem different to you..... Love has no Fear, and Fear sees no love.......
I will pray for you.... I hope i helped.
i just want to thank semi and coonie for taking time to reply on my post...thank u so much and i really appreciate the advices you've given me. thank you for the prayers. actually i talked to my partner lastnight i told him everything, how i feel and how bad i feel of myself for feeling like this. and he said that he loves me more than anybody else in this world and i think you are right guys i need not to be scared. pls continue on praying for me that instead of me having an aching heart ill have a forgiving and open heart for everyone especially to his family and the people who hurt me and caused me pain from the past.again semi and coonie thank you so much.
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