Hi, This is the first time that I have been on this website. I am in desperate need of prayer and answers. I will try to tell the short version of my situation. I am a christian, have been married to my husband for 25 years and have 3 children. (2 boys and 1 girl) My youngest, turned 20 a few weeks ago. She has been dating a non christian for about a year. She's always told me and her dad and the rest of our family that she and her boyfriend were 2 differnt people with going in differnt directions. she also said that she didn't feel that she should give up on him being saved-so she continued to see him. They broke up because he was saying some really bad things to her and trying to pressure her into moving in with him. they were broke up for 2 weeks then she came home one night and said that she was moving in with him. She has always been avery good christian girl, never drinking, cursing,etc. Never gave us any trouble. his mom lives with her boyfriend of 5 years and thinks that nothing is wrong with her situation. Now my daughter lives with her boyfriend and his mom and her boyfriend? We had no warning that she was leaving and when she left, she showed no emotions and said she did not care if we were upset. and that This was her choice, not ours. The boyfriend has been telling her for months that she and i did not have a good relationship. however, he couldnt be more wrong. She called me 4 or 5 times a day to get my opinion and/or advice on what ever she was doing at the time. She called just to say hey. She helped me do almost everything and i helped her with most everything. Now, shes been gone a month. at first, we didn't talk because she didn't want to. She acts like a completely different person. and seems as if she has no feelings for her family. She doesn't seem to care at all that we are upset. I keep wondering what i could have done wrong to make her act this way. I have been praying a lot , reading the bible, and other christian books more than i have in years. I am angry with God because this has happened. and i am finding it very hard to trust him. i don't understand why he would allow my family to be torn apart. i just don't understand. hes suppose to love her more than I do and it doesn't seem as if he is going to get her out of that house. Theres a lot more to this, but i don't know what to do. should i talk with her like nothing is wrong, (which i can't seem to do without getting very upset) i have cried for a month. i cant act as if our relationship hasn't changed. she wants me to act the same as we always have.) Some people tell me i don't need to talk to her. I am praying to God to help us but it seems he isn't listening. What do I need to do? Please help me! I love God and my family. I'm trying to trust him with this but I don't want her to be in this guys house. This cant be Gods will--can it? Is he trying to punish me for something I've done? Any advice? I am deeply troubled and to not know what to do. I do not want to turn away from God. i know that hes my only hope--but im so afraid that hes not going to fix this. Thanks!
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