Advice Concerning Husband, Feeling desperate! Options

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I need help! My husband and I have been married for 9 months and he is a wonderful, Godly man. We attend the church I grew up in, which is the total opposite of what he grew up in. He feels like everyone there likes me and knows me and they don't really accept him. He says they expected me to marry someone who would fit in there perfectly and be just like them and that they think I married a loser. He won't get involved. He hasn't become a member yet, doesn't act interested in being there, and hardly speaks to anyone. I have told him that I would go somewhere else, but he doesn't want to take me away from my church family. He says he likes it there. He struggles terribly with insecurity and feeling awkward. It's all in his mind. No matter what I say, I can't get through to him. He loves the Lord, and is a great Christian and a wonderful husband, but this really puts a strain on our life together. He knows he struggles with things, but doesn't really trry to fix them because he says he will just fail again. I knew he had problems with this when we got married, but they have gotten worse. I don't know what to do. We may be moving out of state, and in some ways it may be good for us to starts in a new church together. But, if he has this much trouble around people he already knows, won't it be worse around strangers? I am very involved in my church, but would gladly go somewhere else if it would help him. He won't get involbved. Does anyone have some advice? I love my husband more than anything and I want to help him through this. Please help me!