I am through my divorce although recent events with my ex who suffers from addictions have brough up alot of hatred and bitterness in me I need to purge.I pray all the time and get small relief until he upsets me again concerning my son. I also lost both my parents last summer within 72 dAYS. It was such a shock and he was there for me. Then his house burnt down I let him live with me for three months until he found another place. I was there for him he promised not to abandon our son again ect as soon as he moved out found a new girlfriend he ditched everything about us. Promised he would be there for me on mothers day and wasn't. We even gave him my some of my parents furniture to start new household. I feel completely used and abused by him once again. I know he is sick but how does one do that to another person? I know I feel like a foolish victim but i really thought after experienencing both my parents death with me where he had a powerful religous experience that was for real and shocked him he would have changed some. I am hurt and bitter please pray for me and my son.

Dear Jenl,

I'm sorry to hear you are going through the grief over your parents death, and the hurt, anger and betrayel of your ex-husband. Sometimes the weight of the world seems to crush us, doesn't it? I will pray that the Lord heals your aching heart, gives you strength, and brings you peace. Your ex-husband sounds like a very lost and troubled man; unfortunately, there's probably nothing you can do to either help or change him -- only God can do that. For yourself, even though it will be difficult, you need to forgive the man who has hurt you so much. Ask God for His help, and I will ask him too.

If you'd like to talk, I'm a pretty good listener. I have three grown daughters (33, 29 and 25) I've helped through a thing or two. I just wanted to let you know I'm here if you need someone; you can private message me anytime.

God Bless

Hi jenl! I'm praying for you and your son and your ex. I'm sorry you got hurt again by him. Forgive me for being blunt, but addiction is well described by the proverb that says a fool returns to his folly like a dog to his vomit. No one can understand why, not even the addict. Only God can heal addiction and He will do it only if the addict is willing...which, as you've seen, is the hard part. We'll keep praying.