I know I am not the perfect christen women and I don’t clam to be but I really feel like God is punishing me for something when it comes to the opposite sex. I was always raised in the church and I love the Lord with all my heart but I just don’t get it. I have done everything that I can think of that I am doing wrong and I have tried to fix most of them and have succeeded at them. I have stopped having sex, I am praying to God more each day and thanking him for the life that he has given me but still nothing. I know I am young (20) but I feel like this is the one thing that God has been keeping from me my whole life. I have had boyfriends but none that I can say that I truly cared for and that have not been full of disappointment and despair. And now after all my praying and asking I thought that God had sent me someone but then it turns out that this guy was not the one he was just the same as all the rest just pretended to be different. I really don’t know what else I can do I really feel like just giving up and I am at my breaking point. It just seems like God will not answer me ( I have been praying for this as long as I can remember… I just want someone that I can call a companion and friend) I really don’t know why God will not answer me. I have always tried to live according to his word and have gotten better at it as I have grown and matured but still nothing. I just really don’t know what to do any more. I want to trust him and believe that he is listening to me and what I am asking but I don’t know how much more disappointment with the opposite sex I can take. Its just the same thing every time one let down after another. I have done everything that I can think of….. I am even seeking out men that seem to know the Lord in there lives but nothing seems to work. Does God really want me to be miserable for the rest of my life Help I just don’t know what else I can do to show the Lord that I am here Listening and waiting for him to show, tell , give me a companion that is not full of let downs.

Hello:::

I know how this can feel & I have been through the ravages of despair and disappointment of thinking I'm never
going to be ''alone'' again, only to end up on my own once again..

That is where I am right now and I have been so for seven years and there probably hasn't been a solitary month
go by that I haven't cried out for the distress of it all. I gave up ''dating'', and have devoted myself solely to God
and though I try with all of my strength not to be afraid or feel unlovable, I fail during those points in the month where
I am most vulnerable emotionally..
I am never content with this solitary state and yet what is the alternative,
turn my back on what I know God asks of me, what He requires after He, unlike every guy in my life has PROVEN
Himself worthy of my trust and my total loyalty -- that's not an option!!

I know also that it in those times of feeling dreadfully ALONE that it just doesn't seem that God has heard our desire
and taken it seriously, but what other hope is their of being truly loved???
I have learned from my past experiences with the opposite sex that unless the Lord builds the house they that labor
do so in vain.. There just isn't any close second to God's Love and Unity in a relationship and so I WAIT..
And I pray that while God is working this to your good that you will WAIT, not for a guy but FOR YOUR LORD!!
and I ask that you pray for me as well..

In Sisterly Love and with true understanding

dani

cutest123 -

My answer may not seem like an easy one, but you don't need to do anything to prove to the Lord anything - He already knows.

Now, here's what I suggest: Put your focus on the Lord and no about your business let Him bring to you the guy He will choose for you in His own time.

Just allow that Lord's Will be done and you will accept whatever He intends for you.

Shalom.

Hi Cutest! I was in my early 30's and my wife her late 20's when we met. It was a long, lonely wait, for me, where I tried other relationships but nothing worked. After more than 21 years of marriage, I can see she is the perfect one for me. I can also see, if I had not had the lonely years before, I would have never appreciated her and stuck with her through the rough spots. Be patient! God has the perfect one for you. Start with a long friendship and build from there. If a man is patient enough to be your friend for a year or so, you'll know him well enough to risk your heart.