Hi Sarin! It's a difficult thing, having a marriage that doesn't meet your expectations. Fortunately, for me, the Lord taught me to change my expectations early on in our marriage. Now we've been married over 21 years. It's interesting to me that being "best friends" is not enough for you, because it's the greatest part of our relationship. It's the genuine intimacy that the other intimacy can't hold a candle to. Don't get me wrong. I think that's important, just not as important as our society makes it out to be. What God taught me about the marriage relationship is the same thing I've taught many couples over the years, and I'll share with you.
Marriage is a the relationship where two people become one. The biggest way they do that is by each sacrificing themselves for the other. The key to getting our needs met is to consider the needs of our spouse more important than our own (see Philippians 2). The way Jesus got a name above all names is by giving up what He had a right to expect and sacrificing himself. What I recommend is you devote yourself to meeting his needs and becoming the best wife for who he is, not who you wish he were. Then trust God that he will bless you for your sacrifice and devotion to God's plan for marriage. It may take time, but I believe if you seriously do this without resenting him, your husband will become the person who meets your needs more than you ever imagined. That's what I believe the Bible says and that's been my experience.
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Love & Hugs, Glen
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