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This is very difficult for me to talk about. I still can't believe I'm even having to live through this, and the worse part is he's only 4 years old. My little boy has been through so much in his life. His biological mother passed away February of 2007. My husband was her brother, and she requested months before her passing that my husband and I raise her child if anything were to ever happen to her. The biological father was never really in the picture. After her passing my husband and I tried to get him to sign over his rights, but he refused. However, he still never saw the child but once on father's day. After it had been over 4 months since we had seen or heard from him we went back to our lawyer to see what we could do to get custody of the child. They of course contacted him about the possible court hearing and once again he wouldn't sign over his rights. So in December of 2007 my husband and the biological father signed court documents for the two of them to share custody of the child. It started out with supervised visitation, and I always felt uneasy about the biological father and his girlfriend's 10 year old son. They both were always grabbing H and tickling him and hugging him excessively, in my opinion. But time went on, the biological father completed all his supervised and unsupervised visitation. July 12th was the first weekend the biological father was allowed to keep H for 8 hours on Saturday and Sunday. Yesterday was the second Saturday he was allowed to keep H for 8 hours. H came home, and was dirty as always, so I gave him a bath. After his bath he had a snack and was complaining of his tummy hurting. I took him to potty and started asking him about his day. He was rambling on and on, then all of the sudden he said C stop it. I was like, oh no, did C stop it? He once again said C stop it that hurt. I asked H what C did that hurt him. He said that C touched his bobo. I then asked what with and he stated his finger. I remained calm and tried to see if he meant something else and asked a few other questions, and he replied the same statement. It went further into detail, that I will not share because of the possible audience who may read this, but it wasn't good and very disgusting! I took him to the hospital and tests were done and thankfully showed no major signs of abuse. But now I am stuck in a horrible place in my mind. The other boy is now in a detention center until Monday, and my little boy had to go through something I wish would have never happened in a million years. I am so full of mixed emotions. I want to protect my son! And I want to make sure that no one hurts him, but of course I can't always be there to protect him. I just pray that he will not have to suffer from this for the rest of his life. I pray that I caught it in time to prevent him from being hurt for years and years. I also pray that God will make sure justice is done and that my little boy will never have to see these people again. But at the same time I'm praying for C. I'm praying that if he did do this to my child that he will confess his sins and recover from his actions. I hate to ever think that he could hurt another child, especially mine again. I also pray that the biological father confesses his role in the allegations and realizes the error of his ways. And thankfully I am a Christian, so I believe that if they ask for forgiveness that I will be able to forgive them as our Father will do. I am still in shock from the situation. I know that I have followed all the rules and done the right thing, but I just worry about my son. I ask for anyone who reads this to pray for my family, especially H, and that we all can over come this and live our lives the way God has intended for us.
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He's Only 4, child molestation
Jul 27 2008, 12:41 PM
