Dear Viola,
"searching4truth" is right on the money. Find an Al-Anon schedule for your area. Try several different groups, if you are able. You might like some better than others, so if you try many than you can choose the ones that fit best for you. Or, if there are no Al-Anon groups in your area, check for Co-dependency groups.
You are not going to be able to 'fix' or change your husband. He has to want to do that for himself. These groups will help you learn how to take care of, and be true to yourself. It is not fair to be treated the way you are. Seek others who are in the same situation. It really helps to know that you are not alone and that there are others out there who can share their own experience, strength, and hope with you.
Good luck and my prayers are with you and your family. And, I pray for your husband for soon reach his "bottom," so that he can find the courage to seek help for himself.
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In God's Hands, Deb
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